- The Connected Child by Karyn Purvis
- Attaching in Adoption by Deborah Gray
- Parenting from the inside out by Daniel J. Siegel
- The Whole Brain Child by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson
- Attachment Play: How to solve children's behavior problems with play, laughter, and connection by Aletha Jauch Solter
Food and Nutrition
- 10 Questions Adoptive Parents Ask
- Give your Child Playfulness
- Play is more than just fun
- Is it Adoption Related or Not?
- Total Voice Control
Games & Activities
- Play hide and seek. This promotes eye contact in a non-threatening context As an added bonus this also develops object permanence.
- Put lotion on each other.
- Play a memory game but with a more personal touch. First, have your child look you over very carefully. Then leave the room and return after you’ve changed something about yourself. See if s/he can figure out what is different. It could be something really obvious for younger kids, like taking off a sweater, but for older kids you could get more challenging, like buttoning one more button on the sweater.
- Create a pillow jumping maze. Set up pillow islands in a pattern across the floor. Have your child start at one end while you are at the other. S/he can only start to cross the room when you say “go” (you could say “mo” or “lo” to make things more challenging and teach him/her to be more attentive). After given the green light, your child must jump across the islands and into your arms.
- Brushing Hair
Articles & More
The connection archive from Karyn Purvis
Attachment Style Evaluation from Dan Siegel
Game Changing Strategies
- Routines and traditions
- The timer on your cell phone
- Narrate the activity
- Don’t try to solve conflict when impulse control and emotions are high. Address the real need in the moment, and then confront the behavior later.
- Focus on the positive. Be specific
- Give choices